I like when I don’t have to be careful about what I say
By Chinenye Nwaogu
“I like when I don’t have to be careful about what I say. That’s when you know you are with the right people.”
One of the fundamental and important success needs is to be around people who truly care and love you and you can be comfortable being your real self. Life is becoming too hypocritical, fake, and unreal.
Many young people are daily turning to emotional and psychological wrecks because life has become too competitive, judgemental and stigmatization has become the order of the day.
Many are living with great emotional pains because there seems to the no one to truly speak to and get genuine attention.
Most people listen to respond, correct or teach instead of listening to understand. Most people engage in conversations or listen to show off their skills, prowess and display their ego. Especially in developing societies where there no professionals who can truly counsel people.
This is a major challenge with many marriages and young persons. In today’s world, people are more interested in pulling out their phones to record events than to seek opportunities to assist those in need.
Even many who do are more interested in using it as a personal publicity stunt to promote their personal brand, hence even the hardworking needy shy away from asking for support and help. To gain a proper psychological balance, you need to constantly look at your circle, are you around people you feel comfortable to be your real self, or with people you have to be too careful how you act.
Everyone requires a growth process to arrive, that growth process will need you to make mistakes and be corrected. Many people show all the niceties, flawlessness, and hide the errors. This has led many people especially young people to think life is just an all-around ecstasy.
Do not fall for the scam of thinking that all that glitters are gold. Find real people, role models, and mentors who can listen to you first to understand you before volunteering any advice. Avoid those who may want to use you to validate their ego or their self-acclaimed success.
Find those who are less or nonjudgmental they help you live real lives and grow properly. Avoid the hypocritical, judgemental, and perpetual critics, they make life a living hell especially for the growing. You need to be very strong psychologically to relate to such an environment.
To truly be happy and confident, look for circles where you are comfortable to be yourself and grow from there.
Essentially there are no perfect beings as some may pretend to portray, almost everyone has one terrible flaw they are battling with, do not live a life constantly condemning yourself thinking your life is useless and filled with errors. Be more proactive rather than sitting back and perpetually analyzing even the minutest step.
Many people have had their lives ruined because they try to avoid making mistakes or they have not found the power to forgive themselves of past errors.
Choose your friends with caution, your circle of the association will determine a lot about you.
Pay attention to who you allow into your life, be careful about those you give roles in your life those decisions are key to happiness and success. Make them carefully.